Hi TUG forum!
I haven't posted in quite some time, yet I do have some drafted true TUGs from my teen and childhood years I've been writing so hoping to post them soon.
My dilemma I'm having now is that I'm 26. I still LOVE being tied up and tying up. I am lucky enough that when I go 'home home' I have a friend who is more than happy to tie me up as a one off but is no longer interested in being tied. I find it difficult to bring it up with my new friends, even ones I'm very close with, whilst I now live in London. I have a sideline interest in magic tricks in general so have always previously managed to bring it up loosely it as part of some card tricks or something along those lines.
I worry so much that they see it as more a kink now I'm older when I still just love it for the fun of it rather than the fun I used to have as a child. I did try to open up to one of my closer friends last year about it who was quite dismissive and said it was weird. This has thrown me into turmoil. Is it weird? Maybe as an adult I should stop wanting to be tied and being tied and just enjoy the memories from being younger?
I don't want to lose hope but also, from going from having quite a few friends I was comfortable talking to about it and having those fun TUG experiences, I'm now at a loss and I suppose just really miss it.
And just to summarise my most recent experience which was wonderful and I'm finishing up writing at the moment below. I'll throw the full finished story in True TUGs tomorrow hopefully.
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It was a few years ago, my university kitchen/living room. My housemate Will and I had been doing some card magic when it turned to rope magic, turned to who can escape the ropes. He managed to escape first time. However, he tied me really well, every limb seemingly, so he could get back to writing his dissertation in peace. He had me tied up and tightly gagged on our living room sofa with the TV on. He occasionally came to check on /taunt me which was good and had left the TV on where it was showing one of the Harry Potter films. I was starting to worry at this point someone might come back so thought it would be a good opportunity to actually try and escape.
I shall leave what happened next for the full story but I'm sure you might be able to see where it's going haha.
Thanks you in advance for reading my query and your help. x
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gaggedinbriefs
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i feel that completely, the good news is theres loads of people in london that are into that.
and if it makes you feel any better i’d definitely tie you up
sidenote, what kind of magic do you do
and if it makes you feel any better i’d definitely tie you up
sidenote, what kind of magic do you do
add me on discord Quadpen#0225
i also have a gid group if you want to join too
i also have a gid group if you want to join too
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Looking forward to your storiesgaggedinbriefs wrote: 3 days ago I haven't posted in quite some time, yet I do have some drafted true TUGs from my teen and childhood years I've been writing so hoping to post them soon.
I think we all can relate to that dilemma. While I only love to be tied-up, and only ever tied-up those who really begged me to do so and promised to tie me up after (as I never really had any interest in being the captor--but I digress), I can relate to the difficulty of bringing it up with close friends, especially when they most probably will link it to a kink instead of something that can be done for just its own innocent fun.gaggedinbriefs wrote: 3 days ago My dilemma I'm having now is that I'm 26. I still LOVE being tied up and tying up. I am lucky enough that when I go 'home home' I have a friend who is more than happy to tie me up as a one off but is no longer interested in being tied. I find it difficult to bring it up with my new friends, even ones I'm very close with, whilst I now live in London. I have a sideline interest in magic tricks in general so have always previously managed to bring it up loosely it as part of some card tricks or something along those lines.
I worry so much that they see it as more a kink now I'm older when I still just love it for the fun of it rather than the fun I used to have as a child. I did try to open up to one of my closer friends last year about it who was quite dismissive and said it was weird. This has thrown me into turmoil. Is it weird? Maybe as an adult I should stop wanting to be tied and being tied and just enjoy the memories from being younger?
To be honest with myself, while I do mostly enjoy being tied up as a means to relax and manage anxieties, I occasionally also do it for kinky titillation. And even if I start off doing a TUG just for just relaxing, I can stay bound for hours on end, unless it eventually turns kinky.
So I am not surprised that people who don't get our "need" to be tied, would see it as kinky, and doubly so for those of us who also desire to be the captors. While some may be accepting that sometimes we just desire to be tied-up just for the sake of being tied-up, it is far more difficult for them to accept and understand the desire some of us have to tie-up and be the captor.
But please do not give up hope
Life is full of wonders, and you are only 26! When I was that age I nearly gave up hope ever finding a TUG partner, and then I met a very special someone with whom I'm still married to all these years. I love this little RL story. You should edit the title of your main post to add "M/M" as there is a story and it should be gender tagged. Our little board here needs more stories like this, where two adults can have some non-kinky, totally platonic and friendly, TUGs.gaggedinbriefs wrote: 3 days ago It was a few years ago, my university kitchen/living room. My housemate Will and I had been doing some card magic when it turned to rope magic, turned to who can escape the ropes. He managed to escape first time. However, he tied me really well, every limb seemingly, so he could get back to writing his dissertation in peace. He had me tied up and tightly gagged on our living room sofa with the TV on. He occasionally came to check on /taunt me which was good and had left the TV on where it was showing one of the Harry Potter films. I was starting to worry at this point someone might come back so thought it would be a good opportunity to actually try and escape.
I shall leave what happened next for the full story but I'm sure you might be able to see where it's going haha.
Thanks you in advance for reading my query and your help. x
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Welcome back, @gaggedinbriefs! Looking forward to reading your stories, so post away when ready. 
This is absolutely a problem that most (if not all) of us who like being tied up (for whatever reason) face. Wanting to be tied up is weird. And by “weird”, I simply mean that most people, if asked, would say that it’s not normal behavior. Interestingly, many polls on the subject would find that “most” people are, in fact, lying. But I digress.
Embrace being weird! This is probably easiest to understand when you realize that there is no such thing as “normal” anyway. And if there were—well, that just sounds boring. With every passing year, I also find that I care less and less about what other people think of me. Why should I? So they think that my hobbies are weird or even deviant? So what? Now, that doesn’t mean that I’m going to shove my love of bondage in everyone’s face—but if they find out and are “turned off” by it…who cares? It’s not like I can change who I am (or would want to), it doesn’t negatively impact any aspect of my life (quite the opposite, actually!), and well…it doesn’t affect any naysayers in any way at all.
To your question of should you just “stop wanting to be tied up”? Yeah, good luck with that.. Everyone’s different, but personally speaking, my love of being tied up is a foundational and core part of who I am. I don’t just want to be tied up—i need it. My point here is really to say that, if you’re like most people here (I think)—your love of being tied up isn’t something that you’ll just be able to “put away” and not think about again. For me, at least, this would be impossible and be extremely detrimental to my mental and emotional health!
What is your living situation right now? By yourself, with roommates, in a dorm? You don’t have to answer here, but I ask only to relate this to my situation back in college 20 years ago. I lived in an apartment with a few friends, and obviously had other friends over on a regular basis. At the time, no one (not a single soul) knew that I liked to be tied up—and I never felt comfortable enough to start that kind of conversation. So, I just decided to take a more passive approach and see what would happen. I had a cork board in my room where I hung all the normal stuff—photos, schedules, movie stubs, etc. I got out a pair of S&W handcuffs and hung those on the board as well. That way, anyone who came in my room would obviously see them. Long story short, some friends never said a thing, others made comments, while a few would even begin playing with the handcuffs and asking me why I had them if the first place (which was what I’d been hoping for!). That started lots of conversations, which ultimately led to me giving several friends spare cuff keys as a backup.
I like this approach (and of course, it’s one of many), because it’s more passive and puts the ball in their court, as it were. And, you have the added benefit of being able to relate it to your interest in magic! I found this approach seamlessly opened up lots of conversations that otherwise would never have taken place, and with some that I would never have expected to begin with. It was also generally easy to gauge how “interested” someone was and how far the conversation might go. On occasion, it led to someone getting handcuffed then and there.
To emphasize @tiedinbluetights’s point, you’re very young and have plenty of time to figure all this out anyway. There’s no need to lose hope or be in turmoil about it—but I know that’s much easier said than done.
Lastly, might I ask what you love about being tied up? You said that you like it “for the fun of it”. Do you find it relaxing or exciting? Or are you interested in it from a more “escape artist” perspective? This is always an interesting question for me, as we all have our different and unique reasons for loving what we do.
Good luck!
This is absolutely a problem that most (if not all) of us who like being tied up (for whatever reason) face. Wanting to be tied up is weird. And by “weird”, I simply mean that most people, if asked, would say that it’s not normal behavior. Interestingly, many polls on the subject would find that “most” people are, in fact, lying.
But I digress.Embrace being weird! This is probably easiest to understand when you realize that there is no such thing as “normal” anyway. And if there were—well, that just sounds boring. With every passing year, I also find that I care less and less about what other people think of me. Why should I? So they think that my hobbies are weird or even deviant? So what? Now, that doesn’t mean that I’m going to shove my love of bondage in everyone’s face—but if they find out and are “turned off” by it…who cares? It’s not like I can change who I am (or would want to), it doesn’t negatively impact any aspect of my life (quite the opposite, actually!), and well…it doesn’t affect any naysayers in any way at all.
To your question of should you just “stop wanting to be tied up”? Yeah, good luck with that.
. Everyone’s different, but personally speaking, my love of being tied up is a foundational and core part of who I am. I don’t just want to be tied up—i need it. My point here is really to say that, if you’re like most people here (I think)—your love of being tied up isn’t something that you’ll just be able to “put away” and not think about again. For me, at least, this would be impossible and be extremely detrimental to my mental and emotional health!What is your living situation right now? By yourself, with roommates, in a dorm? You don’t have to answer here, but I ask only to relate this to my situation back in college 20 years ago. I lived in an apartment with a few friends, and obviously had other friends over on a regular basis. At the time, no one (not a single soul) knew that I liked to be tied up—and I never felt comfortable enough to start that kind of conversation. So, I just decided to take a more passive approach and see what would happen. I had a cork board in my room where I hung all the normal stuff—photos, schedules, movie stubs, etc. I got out a pair of S&W handcuffs and hung those on the board as well. That way, anyone who came in my room would obviously see them. Long story short, some friends never said a thing, others made comments, while a few would even begin playing with the handcuffs and asking me why I had them if the first place (which was what I’d been hoping for!). That started lots of conversations, which ultimately led to me giving several friends spare cuff keys as a backup.
I like this approach (and of course, it’s one of many), because it’s more passive and puts the ball in their court, as it were. And, you have the added benefit of being able to relate it to your interest in magic! I found this approach seamlessly opened up lots of conversations that otherwise would never have taken place, and with some that I would never have expected to begin with. It was also generally easy to gauge how “interested” someone was and how far the conversation might go. On occasion, it led to someone getting handcuffed then and there.
To emphasize @tiedinbluetights’s point, you’re very young and have plenty of time to figure all this out anyway. There’s no need to lose hope or be in turmoil about it—but I know that’s much easier said than done.
Lastly, might I ask what you love about being tied up? You said that you like it “for the fun of it”. Do you find it relaxing or exciting? Or are you interested in it from a more “escape artist” perspective? This is always an interesting question for me, as we all have our different and unique reasons for loving what we do.
Good luck!
Too bad London is so far away or I'd help!
You have a decent chance at finding somebody, though.
You have a decent chance at finding somebody, though.
I wish in retrospect that I'd done this in college myself. Was never brave enoughcopperfox wrote: 2 days ago
What is your living situation right now? By yourself, with roommates, in a dorm? You don’t have to answer here, but I ask only to relate this to my situation back in college 20 years ago. I lived in an apartment with a few friends, and obviously had other friends over on a regular basis. At the time, no one (not a single soul) knew that I liked to be tied up—and I never felt comfortable enough to start that kind of conversation. So, I just decided to take a more passive approach and see what would happen. I had a cork board in my room where I hung all the normal stuff—photos, schedules, movie stubs, etc. I got out a pair of S&W handcuffs and hung those on the board as well. That way, anyone who came in my room would obviously see them. Long story short, some friends never said a thing, others made comments, while a few would even begin playing with the handcuffs and asking me why I had them if the first place (which was what I’d been hoping for!). That started lots of conversations, which ultimately led to me giving several friends spare cuff keys as a backup.
I like this approach (and of course, it’s one of many), because it’s more passive and puts the ball in their court, as it were. And, you have the added benefit of being able to relate it to your interest in magic! I found this approach seamlessly opened up lots of conversations that otherwise would never have taken place, and with some that I would never have expected to begin with. It was also generally easy to gauge how “interested” someone was and how far the conversation might go. On occasion, it led to someone getting handcuffed then and there.
